The New Map
Choose your way forward with clarity and care.
A 12-week group coaching program for men exploring their sexuality within or after a marriage to a woman.
What do I actually want? And what would it mean for my life?
Maybe you’ve known you’re attracted to men for years and are only now giving yourself room to think about what that means. Maybe you’ve told your wife, and the two of you are trying to figure out what changes. Or maybe your marriage has ended, and you’re wondering how to explore this part of yourself now.
These questions can be hard to talk about when the people you’d normally turn to are also the people most affected by what you’re discovering.
I created The New Map to give you somewhere to say what you’ve been holding in and hear from other men asking some of the same questions. You can come in with a word for your sexuality, a lot of questions, or a little of both.
What we’ll work on together
Explore with men who understand
Talk openly with men navigating similar questions about sexuality and marriage. Hear how others are making sense of what’s changing, and get to know a group you can come back to over 12 weeks.
Get clear about what you want and need
Make room to explore your attractions, desires, and questions about identity. We’ll look at what feels essential, where you have flexibility, and what you’re still figuring out.
Bring what you discover into your life
Practice talking about your desires, needs, and uncertainties. We’ll work on staying grounded in difficult conversations and discussing boundaries and agreements with care.
Choose your way forward with clarity and care
Build a personal map for what you’re ready to explore next, what still needs a conversation, and what support you can lean on as things change.
How the group works
Six two-hour group coaching sessions. We meet online every other week for honest sharing, live coaching, and guided exercises.
Paired conversations. Between core sessions, you’ll meet with another member at a time that works for both of you. I’ll give you prompts to get the conversation started.
Optional weekly Open Conversations. We’ll explore topics around sexuality and relationships. You can watch the recorded opening presentations and continue the conversation in the private forum.
Reflection and conversation tools. Use guided prompts and exercises between meetings to make sense of what’s coming up and prepare for conversations in your life.
Optional individual coaching. You can also work with me one-on-one to explore your unique circumstances and apply what you’re discovering in the group to your own life.
A note from Rob
When I came out as bisexual in my early thirties, I started to notice how often I’d made choices based on what I thought I was supposed to want. Learning to hear what I actually wanted changed how I approached my relationships and the rest of my life.
Through Two Bi Guys, my book Bisexual Married Men, and my coaching practice, I’ve had a lot of conversations with men who are trying to make sense of their sexuality while caring for the lives and relationships they’ve built. I wanted to give those men a place to get to know each other and talk through these questions over time.
What participants say
From past group coaching participants
“I also found myself able to articulate with the group in ways that had eluded me before, which immediately translated to deeper, more productive conversations with my partner.”
— JDC, 56
“Rob combines his easygoing personality with underlying gentle focus which lets him meet people where they are, and guide the conversation forward with natural flow.”
— Brian S
“Somewhere right now there's a bunch of guys facing similar doubts and pondering similar questions, you'll have to walk your own road, but you don't have to walk alone”
— Javier, 41
“It was just so great to know I had a group of men in a situation similar to mine I could connect with each week. Within that broad similarity, our situations were all unique, and it was really valuable for me to hear about different individual situations.”
— Pony B
“I came away feeling a sense of connection and comradery with the men in my group, better awareness of who I am, where I am headed, and which questions are most important for me to answer next on my journey.”
— Anonymous
“I loved the opportunity to be vulnerable and my authentic self from the very first moment.”
— Anonymous
“It was invaluable to have this container to share deeply and openly. We covered really important and personal topics, like shame, attraction, wants vs/needs, and having practice talking about where we are in our lives.”
— Anonymous, mid 40s
“I really enjoyed getting to know my fellow cohort members, and feel like I made new friends for life.”
— Rodney
Interested in joining us?
Fill out a short application and I’ll reach out when the next cohort is ready to enroll.