WELCOME
I am a writer, creator and life coach living in Los Angeles.
I specialize in helping people recognize and embrace their authentic selves, especially in sexuality, relationships, and creative expression.
I work with people of all identities, with a focus on queer/fluid/Bi+ men, the broader LGBTQ+ community, and those exploring non-monogamy and non-traditional relationship structures.
I host and produce Two Bi Guys (By One Bi Guy), a podcast about sexuality, gender, and relationships, and I am the author of Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, and Authenticity, an oral history / memoir.
I also have over a decade of experience writing and producing for television, including seven seasons at Law & Order: SVU.
“Working with Rob has been transformative. His empathetic listening and thoughtful guidance have helped me navigate deeply personal challenges with clarity and confidence… I’ve developed a stronger sense of self-love and acceptance, enabling me to show up more authentically in every area of my life.”
—Leonard, 45
“Rob is a naturally gifted coach, it's clear that guiding people on their journeys toward healing and authenticity is what he is meant to be doing… he asked me to reflect on myself and my life in ways that have unlocked new truths and powerful new paradigms.”
—Austin, 38
“Despite using basic therapy to help me calm my anxiety, I still didn't know where I was going. Rob’s coaching has really done wonders for my fear of the future. He just knows what questions to ask at the right time to find my way over the next hurdle. I now have bigger dreams and goals than I could have ever imagined without his coaching.”
—Todd, 53
Do you feel “stuck” in any area of your life? Are you struggling to bring authenticity to your work, your relationships, or your social life? Would you benefit from an accountability partner to achieve your goals?
If you’d like to move forward and transform your life, I can help. I specialize in helping queer people (and especially Bi+/fluid men) live authentically, proudly, and without shame, but no matter your identity or current challenges, I will use my curiosity and coaching skills to partner with you and achieve your goals.
I completed my coach training at the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC), and I am now a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) accredited by the International Coaching Federation (ICF). I also have years of experience as a queer activist, speaker, and support group facilitator. I offer individual coaching sessions as well as group sessions and workshops to help you work through whatever is blocking you and live as your most authentic self.
Coming out as bisexual completely transformed my life and taught me about the power of authenticity and self-acceptance. For over thirty years, nothing was scarier in my mind than confronting this aspect of myself — but once I pushed through, I immediately felt the benefits of living without shame. I also realized the toll that my avoidance was taking on my mental health, and I began to apply that wisdom to other areas of my life. The work I did to come out changed my overall energy level and affected how I showed up with friends, family, partners, colleagues, and even strangers. I learned to live on MY terms, holding onto what I believe — not following other people’s rules or norms.
If you’re interested in learning more and seeing if we’d be a good fit, book a free intro call with me!
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“Rob and his work have been so impactful to me it's hard to put into words. First with his podcast, then his book and eventually through coaching, Rob has guided me through the biggest journey toward authenticity in my life… Reading his book allowed me to hear stories from multiple men just like me, it was an absolute treasure trove… helped me feel whole, normal, and gave me the ability to stop questioning who I am and start living as my true self… I used my coaching engagement with him to come out to my family and my wife's family and I couldn't be more grateful for Rob guiding me on so many steps of this journey.”
—Austin, 38
“Working with Rob has been transformative. His empathetic listening and thoughtful guidance have helped me navigate deeply personal challenges with clarity and confidence. Through our sessions, I’ve developed a stronger sense of self-love and acceptance, enabling me to show up more authentically in every area of my life. This journey hasn’t been easy, but Rob's ability to create a safe and affirming space has been truly invaluable. I genuinely look forward to every coaching session with him!”
—Leonard, 45
“As someone who considers myself to be fairly self aware, I'm amazed at how Rob is able to help me talk my way to zeroing in on an issue I hadn't before, while both keeping me on track and comfortable doing it. You get the feeling he really loves to go with you on your thought journey and help make sense of those thoughts.”
—Crystal, 40s
Testimonials
“Rob is a naturally gifted coach, it's clear that guiding people on their journeys toward healing and authenticity is what he is meant to be doing. He's humble and curious and kind. He has a strong point of view but he doesn't drive the session. He embodies so much acceptance and love and curiosity that just being in his presence is healing. I got so much validation, support and strength from every session with Rob. And he asked me to reflect on myself and my life in ways that have unlocked new truths and powerful new paradigms.”
—Austin, 38
“Awesome to hear your coaching is going so well. I know you're good at it. Thanks again by the way. You really helped me move forward. [My wife] and I are doing great. We got through the minefield and realized we had been doing our relationship all wrong. We opened up our relationship and renewed our vows this year. I think we are both the happiest we've ever been.”
—Todd, 50s
“Despite using basic therapy to help me calm down my anxiety, I still didn't know where I was going. Rob’s coaching has really done wonders for my fear of the future. He just knows what questions to ask at the right time to find my way over the next hurdle. I now have bigger dreams and goals than I could have ever imagined without his coaching.”
“I signed up for 11 individual coaching sessions with Rob to help me figure out how to navigate my newly understood bisexuality, demisexuality, and queerness in my early 60s. I've experienced so much positive change in just 3 months. I'm now really plugged into queer and bi-male communities and communicating my interest in other men clearly and authentically. All of the relationships in my life are deeper now... Rob's outstanding and transformative style of coaching have helped me to find truths and change from within -- to trust and love myself and to be true to the unique multidimensional person I am.. to ‘come home to myself’.”
—“MQLS”, 60s
“I began meeting with Rob at the start of my marital separation. I had been seeing a good therapist for over a year, but I found Rob’s coaching to be extremely helpful during this major life transition. Rob is kind, naturally empathetic, and provided just the kind of support and guidance that I needed.”
—Don
“I’ve never had a life coach and didn’t really know what to expect, but from the very beginning with my first session, Rob was exceptionally insightful and guided me into things that I had never thought about. He changed my life, and I am so grateful for the invaluable exploration of myself that I have gained through my time with him. I love the energy that he brings, and he keeps track of our conversation so attentively.
In every session since then, there are new experiences or updates that we discuss, and then I get to go out and put these things to good use in the real world… and the work! I feel as though I have less anxiety, more clarity, more direction, and I’m now goal-focused. Without a doubt, I would highly recommend Rob as a life coach to anyone looking to change their life for the better. I promise, you won’t be disappointed.”
—Austin, 60s
“Rob's coaching transformed my journey of self-acceptance. As a Master's student from India exploring my bisexuality, I found a guiding light in Rob’s coaching. His podcast, "Two Bi Guys" initially drew me in, but his coaching sessions truly made a profound impact. Rob’s approach is marked by empathy, wonderful questions, keen observations, and the ability to create a safe, comfortable space for self-discovery at your own pace. The insights I gained about myself were transformative, especially in dealing with my anxieties around bisexuality and relationships. If you're feeling stuck, whether personally or professionally, I highly recommend a session with Rob—it might just be the breakthrough you need.”
—Anonymous, age 33